I now enjoy taking time to dress each morning and the reasoning behind this trickles down into what I'm teaching (in word and deed) to our kids.
Many years ago, after Sean had left the corporate ladder world, and begun working for himself, I began running into more and more people that knew him when I was out and about. We've lived in the same general area our entire lives and when you have, suddenly it becomes clear that everybody knows somebody you know. So I decided I should probably begin to dress nicer (for me: no yoga pants and t-shirts) when I went out. That thought translated into thinking that, well, if I was going to dress nicely for people who know my husband, to be a good reflection of our home and family name, then I should probably be dressing nicely for him at home also. And so I asked my husband what style of clothing he liked me to wear.
Over time, as I went into thrift stores (because I've made a habit of shopping thrift no matter what our income) I chose clothing I liked but that also fit into the description of what my husband said he liked seeing me wear - things that are "classy and tasteful". I'm not a doormat and have strong opinions on clothing but it didn't take much effort or money to begin to swap out items in my wardrobe for things we both liked. For some, this may seem domineering, asking my husband what he likes me to wear, but he, in turn, asks me what I like him to wear (and I'm brutally honest if I don't like something).
All during this time God has begun working in my heart about dressing more modestly. Previously I was of the opinion that if a guy had a problem, that was his problem, and his temptation or sin had nothing to do with me. After all, there was nothing in the Bible about how long my skirts should be, or whether or not a woman should wear shorts, or if two piece bathing suits were from the devil. :) The Holy Spirit gently steered my heart towards scripture on the intentions of my heart and treating other men as my brothers in Christ. Would I dress with a low cut top and short skirt and sit in a room of my brothers? GROSS! AWKWARD! Definitely not. I have no brothers but the thought of dressing to attract my siblings attention, or so that they could appreciate my body or beauty is just disgusting.
For a while my dresses got longer and longer, because long skirts equal modesty, right? Definitely not. First of all, modesty is a heart issue that manifests itself outwardly. I began to wonder what was behind these scriptures I kept hearing quoted about women not dressing like men, hence the long skirt mode of fashion. As a lover of fashion and fashion history, I knew that men had once worn robes and dress-like fashions that would now-a-days be considered effeminate. I also knew that t-shirts, which just about every woman wears, had begun to be worn by military men who after war wore the t-shirts as civilians, then the general public picked up on the trend regardless of gender - so if we could dress on top like a man, why not on the bottom?
So I'll encourage you to do what I did. I dug up everything I could, every scripture, every Hebrew and Greek word and churned them over, looking at the pieces, seeing what I ought to do, what I ought to wear as a representative of Christ, seeing what was really what. I understand that we are not under the law but that we're called to live in a balance of law and grace. If not, we'd have been commanded by Jesus to toss out the Ten Commandments long ago. Jesus also quoted from the Old Testament more than anyone else, hereby solidifying that Christ would not refer to something that was errant. Now, before I go on and on on this, because the topic of the Old/New meld is thrilling to me....
I discovered that I'm not supposed to put on men's armor, that I'm not to try to pass myself off as a man or live as one, and that chaste and modest and discretion have nothing to do with skirts or skirt length.
I understand this is a touchy subject, and I encourage you to talk with your husbands about it, whether or not they are believers. If your husband is a believer - I encourage you to do a study together if you have not.
For the nitty-gritty of this outfit:
Black riding boots, ebay - $60
wool knee socks - gift from Sean
vintage red skirt, thrifted and new waistband put in, $2
L.L.Bean black v-neck sweater - $10 at the outlet
black velvet jacket - I have no idea I've had this so long :)