I remember when my husband and I were engaged to be married...eleven or so years ago... he mentioned to the couple doing our premarital counseling that love is not a feeling. He said he chose and made a decision to love me. It honestly infuriated me at the time, being on such an emotional high of loving him, but now I understand.
He wasn't saying that he had no emotional feelings for me, but that his love was not going to be based on changing and unsteady emotions. Nor was his commitment.
All these years later, I appreciate his frankness. I appreciate that his decision and commitment to love has been unwavering through job losses, fifty months of pregnancy, a sick child and surgeries, family stresses, venturing out into self-employment and all the other blessings and changes of life.