Saturday, August 2

A bit on marriage....

Identifying the Enemy
"The Bible says that we battle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities and powers of darkness (Eph. 6:12). I wonder how many more marriages would not fall to ruin if the proper enemies were quickly identified? Instead of warring against what we ought to war against we tend to choose our spouses as the opponent.
I love my husband completely and he is a Godly man, the best that I know. Recently he and I came into a time of differing opinions. Is that a nice way to phrase things? We are completely normal human beings! In the midst of it I was trying my best to be holy (not easy!) and bring things before the Lord but inside I was angry and hurt. It is really true that we cannot obtain holiness on our own. Thoughts were battling in my mind and finally I repeated to myself the things I knew were true. Every thought was pointing toward identifying my husband as being the enemy in that particular situation (as I'm sure his thoughts were targeting me). As I repeated truth to my heart, I knew it was not my husband that I ought to be warring against.
These are some of the truths I took time to remind myself of:
Who intends for this marriage to be a blessing?
Who intends for this marriage to fail?
Who is glorified when my husband and I are at odds?
Who desires our marriage to be used to expand and strengthen the kingdom of God?
What does Gods Word say about marriage?
Who comes to seek out, kill and destroy our marriage?
When you come into a conflict within your marriage, please take some tender quiet time to repeat these truths to yourself.
There once were two knights dueling on an open field. Much was at stake at the outcome of their duel. One knight struck the other a painful and near deadly blow. The struck knight rose up angrily and began to berate the opposing knight's sword, scolding it fiercely for striking him. Misplaced blame at its best.
You may have noticed that none of the above questions I asked myself had anything to do with feelings. It is all too easy in the heat of battle to see our feelings as truth. Hadn't God’s word ought to be the only measure of truth in marriage?"


Tom said...

I recently came across your blog and have enjoyed reading it. This post is an especially good reminder and I must use the same inner discussion when my wife and I are having "times of differing opinion."

Patricia said...

What a lovely post.... thanks for sharing.

mama k said...

Too true. I believe marriage is more about the covenant than romantic "love" A friend is having some marriage difficulties and I told her that over the 7 years I've been married, we've fallen in and out and in love again. So I know better than to depend on my "feelings" on any given day.

Have you read The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace? A couple friends and I are studying it this summer. Very encouraging stuff to me.

Susannah said...

Lovely spirit. Nature is so uplifting X

Anonymous said...

I'm so glad to have rediscovered your blog.
There's much wisdom here. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

I'm so glad to have rediscovered your blog.
There's much wisdom here. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

I followed the link to this post, and I'm glad I did. I've found myself really craving Godly advice about just this kind of situation, but at a loss for someone to give it. It is not a popular way to handle conflict; I feel my self bucking against this, but know deep inside that it is truth. I wonder if there are more scriptures I could be referred to?